how to keep up with aging in relationship
Whether you’ve been with the same person for 30 years or you’re finding new love half a century into your life, it’s always the right time to brush up on your relationship skills or learn new ones. Maybe things have gotten stagnant with your spouse, or maybe you’ve found that dating has changed since you last tried it.
When you and your spouse first tied the knot, you probably considered how your life might play out: What your kids would look like, where you’d buy your first house, which breed of dog you’d adopt—maybe even how it would feel to rock side by side in matching chairs once you turned old and gray.
But you might not have considered what it would take to see your union through your 40s
It’s never too late to learn these seven secrets to a successful relationship after fifty.
They keep up with the changes. Lillian Hellman once said, “People change and forget to tell each other.” When it comes to marriage, that can be risky. The most successful couples really take note of each other’s changes. They do not assume their partner is the same person he or she was 20 years ago, even if there are many similarities. What’s more, they take the time to learn their partner’s goals, dreams and future plans. By keeping in touch with who their partner is at this moment — and looking ahead to who he might become — they secure a truly intimate relationship.
They accept the challenges of aging. In good relationships, partners accept that vulnerability comes with the years. They take care of one another as they deal with physical challenges of aging and feelings of mortality. They share their thoughts on what lies ahead, and they have a rock solid belief that their partner will be there for them no matter what happens. The mature partners who face the future as true collaborators and helpmates forge an amazing relationship.
They stay physically connected. Demonstrations of affection and attraction never go out of style. Older couples who still touch, kiss, snuggle and, yes, create an erotic environment are the complete package. Granted, things change: Illness, medication and life crises might get in the way of the kind of passionate romance you had 40 years ago. But the happiest couples are those who have found a way to combat the physical and emotional obstacles and maintain a physically satisfying and sensual relationship. It’s an essential component to keeping the connection alive and strong.
Open your heart fearlessly
To be successful in a relationship, you can’t be afraid to be yourself and share yourself. Real love requires honesty. Honesty about who you are, what you believe, how you feel, and what you want. Total commitment to reality and honesty supports the integrity of a relationship. You must be open and willing to share, listen, and understand. A happy relationship and a full life require the intention to learn about your partner and yourself and to continue to grow
If you’re celebrating your golden wedding anniversary, remember that even though it may feel you and your partner are one person, you still need to say, “I love you” and show your appreciation. Show affection. Have fun with partner! Love with the intensity of a teenager and the wisdom that your years on this earth have given you.