Infatuation and love are strong emotions experienced by the couples and many people fail to understand it correctly. Love and Infatuation often create confusion. You might think you love them, but you really don’t feel like this is what love should feel like, or you are worried that it’s just all in your head.
When you first meet someone and get smitten, it can be difficult to say if you are in love or it’s just a mere infatuation. For some, at the beginning of the phase, love and infatuation can look fairly similar, but it’s time that reveals what’s a genuine feeling can be for someone.
There are a few signs that can tell whether you are infatuated with someone or you have fallen in real love. It’s actually difficult to say anything in the beginning phase. You will have to wait for some time to know the difference between the two.
And I am sure these signs will surely help you out in knowing the differences between infatuation and love.
Here you go:
Short-Lived or Deeper Connection
One of the major differences between love and infatuation is that infatuation is a short-lived whereas love is a deep affection that lasts for a long period of time. However, infatuation might turn into love but takes time and infatuation sometimes is a powerful feeling that can make you think you are in love.
Sense of Affection
Infatuation is a moment of getting carried away by a toxic and addictive love, and it usually happens at the start of the relationship while the sexual attraction is strong. On the other hand, love is a feeling of a strong sense of affection. Love is more of an emotional thing.
Sense of Trust
A sense of trust and security is one of the major characteristics of love. However, if you are infatuated with someone, you will never get a sense of trust with that person, often there is a feeling of guilt, insecurity, and despair.
Trauma as a catalyst
If you are in an infatuation with someone and there comes any disagreement between you two where you are hurt the most, your partner will not understand it which might lead to a break –up. On the other hand, if you are in love with someone, any kind of trauma acts as a catalyst for deeper intimacy and bonding. You both will work towards improvement in your relationship as you both want to stay together and love each other a lot. You will see that effort if you are in love. Love understands that true intimacy is developed over a long time and through many phases of life.
There are people who say that they have fallen in love just by the looks or watching the person. But that’s just impossible! You can’t love a person just because they are good looking as you can’t connect to a person to the superficial things. You actually connect with the internal things like how they feel, what they think about you, how compatible you are with him/her, how well you connect with each other.
If you love the way they look or dress up, no doubt that’s infatuation. If you know them on a deep and personal level, and you are in love the way they are and you don’t care about their looks, you just care about their beautiful smile and appreciate those things, that’s love!
Your feelings or their feelings
If you are in love, you accept all the flaws maturely and when in love you have a gentle understanding. It is always a link between the two people that creates a bond and affection. And when you truly love someone, you will care for your partner more than yourself. He/ she will be your top most priority. Infatuation is not genuine like love, it always conation lust. With infatuation, you consider only your feeling instead of the feelings of the other person. In infatuation, you want your partner to do what you want when you want to. You would want to do those things that suit you or that you love to without even thinking what the person actually wants.
Time and Separation
With time and separation, infatuation becomes weak. While true love grows stronger through time and separation. Separation causes intense pain, nut the desire becomes weaker with false love. However, love grows more and more with time and separation teaches you about the importance of love.
Love comes with a sense of calm, peace, and comfort and the feeling and experience of love does not need any elation or anything that is connected to fear. Love is something that is past from any romantic or cheesy feeling, it’s something that you know and you feel it! It’s that special feeling you will ever experience. When you get that feeling you will know what exactly a true love is!
Infatuation can be a temporary love and is an object of extravagant fleeting desire.
Love is a strong feeling of intense affection. If you are in real love with your partner, you become caring, loyal, and honest, understanding and you are even willing to make sacrifices for your partner. You are truly committed to sincere motives.
Love doesn’t expect anything in return. However, a feeling of desire comes with infatuation. It begins with a physical attraction and might end up in a serious relationship or just end in a random way.
So, you never know when an infatuation can lead to a healthy relationship. If an infatuation is turning into a real love, you will experience the above mentioned loving experiences. So, just go with the flow and choose your partner wisely!